I don't usually blog about work, but today I have too. You see, I work really hard. Really hard. I'm the crazy ass who will come in on my holiday to finish work when I'm into it ... I'm the crazy ass who will bring home work just to stay ahead. I'll work when I'm on MC. I'm very responsible and I take great pride in my work. Like that.
But you know, to those reading this, here's a little advice. When you're good ... when you do your work well ... when you work really hard ... there's bound to be implications. There will be some flaw people will find and some character you have to work on. Some people will say you're not good enough ... some people will say they cannot work with you ... and so on. But tell me, can we stop people from talking? No.
From all these years I've learned that IT's REALLY OK if people don't like you. It's really okay if people talk bad about you. It's all okay. Because at the end of the day, what's left is just you and your character. After all, you cannot make everyone love you right?
So today, I was told to not act 'smart'. I was told to be a bit 'humble'. Indirectly, I was told to 'pretend' I needed help just to flatter egos. I was told to 'jaga hati'. Stupid Asian culture. Stupid stupid Asian culture.
I don't see why I should do that, Why should I 'pretend' that I need help when I know for sure that I don't? Just cuz I'm a girl?
And you know what, it saddens me that these standards exist here in the 21st century. It boils down to me, for just being a girl, It concludes at the saddest point when they imply that you are, after all, just a girl. How much can you do?
My first encounter with gender discrimination. Not a pretty scene. A bit shocking, coming from a person I had high regards for. But, that is the corporate world for you. Working hard is just not allowed because it means you're selfish and want to get ahead. What so wrong about getting ahead then?
But today, I also saw something good. I saw kindness that made me want to cry. A friend gave up his lunch hour and dragged me out of the office for some retail assistance and chocolate afterwards, knowing that I was sad. I was touched beyond words.
So what's my action plan? In the midst of my sadness, I came across this ...
"Be strong and of good courage; do not be afraid or dismayed"
And even more comforting is this..
"I can do all things through HIM who gives me strength".
And
"If HE is for you, who can be against you?"
But but but, like Jen said ..."TV Pendidikan will happen to them one day ..." (inside joke)
But you know, to those reading this, here's a little advice. When you're good ... when you do your work well ... when you work really hard ... there's bound to be implications. There will be some flaw people will find and some character you have to work on. Some people will say you're not good enough ... some people will say they cannot work with you ... and so on. But tell me, can we stop people from talking? No.
From all these years I've learned that IT's REALLY OK if people don't like you. It's really okay if people talk bad about you. It's all okay. Because at the end of the day, what's left is just you and your character. After all, you cannot make everyone love you right?
So today, I was told to not act 'smart'. I was told to be a bit 'humble'. Indirectly, I was told to 'pretend' I needed help just to flatter egos. I was told to 'jaga hati'. Stupid Asian culture. Stupid stupid Asian culture.
I don't see why I should do that, Why should I 'pretend' that I need help when I know for sure that I don't? Just cuz I'm a girl?
And you know what, it saddens me that these standards exist here in the 21st century. It boils down to me, for just being a girl, It concludes at the saddest point when they imply that you are, after all, just a girl. How much can you do?
My first encounter with gender discrimination. Not a pretty scene. A bit shocking, coming from a person I had high regards for. But, that is the corporate world for you. Working hard is just not allowed because it means you're selfish and want to get ahead. What so wrong about getting ahead then?
But today, I also saw something good. I saw kindness that made me want to cry. A friend gave up his lunch hour and dragged me out of the office for some retail assistance and chocolate afterwards, knowing that I was sad. I was touched beyond words.
So what's my action plan? In the midst of my sadness, I came across this ...
"Be strong and of good courage; do not be afraid or dismayed"
And even more comforting is this..
"I can do all things through HIM who gives me strength".
And
"If HE is for you, who can be against you?"
But but but, like Jen said ..."TV Pendidikan will happen to them one day ..." (inside joke)
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